…at breakneck speed, in one picture:
I have posted a couple of videos by this guy and I have watched a few more. So far, he’s got a pretty high percentage of videos watched (maybe 6-7 or so) vs videos I personally generally agree with in regards to relationships, and this video covers a lot of ground and I think gets it mostly right. I have summarised his percentages in a simple table below for ease of “first glance” summarising all he says in one image.
As he says, there are only 5 possible end games for a woman. I have summarised his percentages but any notes in italics are my own additional notes.
A – She is a High value woman, keeps her high value and gets the High Value man she wants
B – She is a High Value Woman, but lowers her Value in Order to get the High Value Man she wants
C – She is (or more likely by far, perceives herself to be) a high value woman, she does NOT lower her (usually self-perceived/deluded) high value, fails to get the high value man she wants, and settles for a lower value man.
D – She lowers her value, still fails to secure the man she wants and settles for a lower value man.
E – She fails to secure a man, even if willing to settle for a lower value man. This can be because she is really low value herself, (ugly, crippled, damaged from trauma to the point she avoids men altogether, etc) or because she is deluded about her value and has delusional expectations compared to her actual value, whatever that is in reality.
Now, the interesting thing is that as per the above chart, only 1% of women could be assumed to be in what they consider a happy relationship.
Another 6% of them also should be happy, but they may at times feel they deserve a little more time/attention/from their spectacular husband.
The rest, can be said to be at various degrees of disappointment. The smart ones, will understand that facing reality head on and making the most of it is the smart play. If we were optimistic and aid about half of the women in C and D did this, that would still leave about 30% of women that will in all likelihood eventually file for divorce. In my estimation nowhere near half of the women in C and D will make the smart play, so divorce rates will approach more like 40 to 50%
And then there is roughly one on four women that never pairs up.
He also mentions that 80% of women who end up childless do so UNINTENTIONALLY, and only 10% of those are the result of medical issues.
Furthermore, the ones then up being left on the shelf, are skewed more towards the high value women that did not secure a husband earlier, and are now less physically attractive, closer to the age at which being childless is normal, and probably are heavily invested in their work or career, so it is not advantageous for a man to commit to her fully.
In short, these are the cold hard numbers, and while exceptions exist, they are even rarer than the 1%of “power-couples” that supposedly exist on the planet.
Personally, I never settled on the things that mattered to me, and although it’s far from scientific, if I use this calculator, the chances of finding a woman that fit my criteria when I first met my now wife were in the region of 0.4%. Interestingly enough, my own calculations at the time, before this online calculator existed, placed the chances of me meeting the ideal woman at quite a bit lower than that, because I also had a minimum IQ requirement, that while not hard-fixed, still needed to meet a certain level of intellectual ability that is really quite rare among women.
And that figure did not really change in those things that mattered to me about her, but by the time we did get together, slightly over a decade after we first met, I had relaxed on one point, if it was for a woman that fit the other criteria that mattered to me, and using the same calculator the value had changed to roughly 0.8%, which means it doubled, but was still below 1%.
From her perspective I think she is somewhat atypical because although they counted, the things that most women probably place high on the list were not as important to her, so on the female delusion calculator, she was probably looking for someone that externally was probably relatively “easy” to find when compared to most female delusions, and she was probably at the 2% or even 4% mark in terms of the externals she wanted, however, she is a rather complicated woman, and even if I dare say so myself, I think the internal qualities that she looked for, coupled with the ones she would swear blind at the time she did not want or need, but in fact both wanted and needed, probably means the number of men she would actually end up staying with permanently is, honestly, less than 0.1%. Frankly I doubt if it’s 0.01%, but we’ll give her the benefit of the doubt.
Add to this the fact that we both had a considerable amount of baggage, both practical as well as historical, and the chances of things working out well for us, by all indications that apparently make a difference, was kind of like some of those absurdly unlikely propositions in the stupidest and most unrealistic action adventure films. You know, the sniper shot that hit exactly the right button from 5k away in a high wind, at night.
In short, Luke blowing up the Death Star is quite literally much, much, much, easier than my wife and I having worked out, given the train-loads of “red flags” that conventional wisdom would allocate to each one of us separately and then a few more train loads if considered together.
And yet… here we are. And this is why I always say that our relationship has often reminded me of the ending of the Mel Gibson film Payback.
From my perspective, I did get the woman I wanted, but… probably at least a decade later than would have been ideal. From her perspective, she would probably make unkind but funny comments about how she doesn’t know how to use morse code to signal a need for a special ops team to extract her, but if she doesn’t turn up late at my death bed, (no chance if she has to get herself to a hospital in time. If I am dying at home, perhaps she might make it, assuming she doesn’t get distracted by making the tea just right, a shiny reflection in the window, or ordering a gadget that just came out for rescuing shrikes from bullfrogs) and assuming I last another 50 years or so to give her “perspective” she would probably confess, to my ears only, that she got the man she wanted too. If I croak first though, she would spend the rest of her days regretting not shouting it from the rooftops. She’s English. They are weird that way.
The point is that anyone that would plan their chances at blissful marriage based on our parameters is at best retarded, and quite possibly clinically insane. And I really am not joking. So, although, yes, the heart wants what it wants, I STRONGLY recommend teaching your heart to be quite a bit more reasonable and practical. Especially if you are a woman, because while for the decade or so between 20 and 30 you very often can take your pick of men if you are moderately intelligent and good looking, if you do not curb your delusions of what you “deserve” in the next decade, between 30 and 40, you will find yourself being used and discarded with increasing frequency, and have a more than 1 in 4 chance of ending up alone and childless. And probably another 1 in 4 chance of being with child/ren but perennially “single”, if you consider serial relationships as not being permanent, because… well, they aren’t, are they.
Do not be fooled by the illusions. Films, TV, the Internet. Do the cold, emotionless, hard numbers, ladies. That middle aged guy who doesn’t look like Brad Pitt and is not a millionaire, but is kind and handy around the house and actually loves you? It may make a lot of sense to love him right back and make it good. After all, to a great big level, love is a choice.
So choose wisely.
The recent posts on IQ, the intelligence gap, etcetera on Vox’s blog and his Sigma Game one too, along with a number of other recent considerations I have been mulling over with regard to the general malaise of this planet’s humanity both as a whole and as considered in their multiply fractal subdivisions right down to the individual, have got me to a point where I may begin to try to articulate a concept that I have been living with most of my life.
In simple terms it goes something like this:
Broadly speaking, almost nothing is really relevant, and yet, your life is absolutely relevant (regardless of whether you are aware of it, reach anything like your full potential in various facets of life and so on).
If you have read my post on violence and gunfights, you may be able to better understand what I mean. The long and the short of that post was that pretty much 95% of everything related to those two topics (assault/violence/gunfights) that you come across is bullshit.
The fact is that even if you train obsessively, unless you kinda go looking for it, the likelihood of you being in an actual gunfight are pretty close to nil. The chances of you being in some violent altercation are somewhat higher, but you can mostly negate those by the simple expedient of increasing your situational awareness in general even if you take zero time training in martial arts or using a firearms under stressful situations.
In the event that you DO end up in a gunfight, again, most of all the detailed supposedly pivotal information provided by armchair and paper experts, but even, too often, by supposedly highly trained “operators” is, again, mostly almost entirely irrelevant. If you can operate your weapon effectively under duress and hit a head-sized object repeatedly at twenty feet or less almost all the time, you are in the top 0.1% of people when it comes to being effective in a gun fight. The calibre or type of gun you use being a minor consideration at best.
Now, extend that sort of general realisation to pretty much everything else.
Unless you are in Ukraine or Gaza, the wars in those places are essentially mostly irrelevant to you. Not completely of course, because your petrol and heating costs go up, and so on, but the impact is not immediately drastic for 99% of the population on Earth compared to those who are actively involved. If you are generally prepared for the apocalyptic economic collapse that maths says will happen at some point, you are well ahead of the curve with respect of most of the rest of humanity. Obsessing about every detail of those conflicts can only lead to added anxiety and lowered immune systems without providing you any further benefit.
Given this overall philosophy, life could easily become seen as a futile exercise and one could easily slip into depression. That too is a trap, because while it is true that 95% of literally everything is bullshit, there is that 5% that makes it all worth it. And it would do so even if it was only 1%.
I always excelled at my job when I was in the corporate rat race and outperformed every financial target that was expected of me, even in those jobs where I was ultimately fired. And yes, I was “let go” on a number of occasions. And an even higher number of times I walked away on my own. How is it possible, you say that I double the expected profit margins and yet get “let go”? I must be lying, or missing out some part of the story, right? Not really. The only part of the story I am missing out is that several times I uncovered either outright fraud or incompetence within the higher ups. I didn’t even make it public for the most part, but the higher ups were aware I was aware. And they were also aware I was not corruptible. The idea a person would not either join them nor be against them necessarily, threatened them instantly (which is understandable).
My work in the UK was never seen by me as a “career”. If I had viewed it that way and applied myself that way, I would undoubtedly be a very wealthy person. That route however would have required a level of internal repression of my basic nature that made the prospect absolutely intolerable to me. I simply saw it as a job. In fact, as a job with a specific firm that would last as long as it lasted. Several years in the best cases, a few weeks in the worst cases. When I did my job, I did it very well and I put as much effort into it as needed to ensure I did outperform every target they had for me. I could do that precisely because it wasn’t that important to me. I am honest and I was hired to do a job so I did it well, but the job itself was not particularly interesting or meaningful to me. I took my satisfactions where I could and so on, and it’s nice to have a nice portfolio of prestigious jobs behind me, but I was perfectly happy being a mercenary that understood the value of both being a team member in a good team, or working independently when required.
I mention this to try and explain the perspective that most of life is filled with irrelevancies. Even the big events, while meaningful to you and some certainly will feel or even be life or death events from your perspective, are ultimately, in the scheme of things, not all that big a deal.
Your divorce and family implosion is a huge deal to you and your children, of course, and yet, most divorces are survived somehow. The culture is going to crap mostly everywhere, and yet you are generally comfortable enough as the world goes to Hell in a handbasket. From a bird’s eye view, very few things matter, and those that do are often things most people have very little control over.
So, if you have this perspective, I wanted to share with you my method for absolutely avoiding nihilistic despair, because I see people, especially younger people, falling into this absolute trap of thinking that since life is so “bad” nothing really matters. That is a mistake, a big, big error and one you should never make.
So here is my recipe:
I can attest to that “20 years” concept in a number of fields, where my interest was always high. In some cases I achieved a level of understanding or competence that then resulted in me deciding I had achieved what I wanted in that respect and then moved on to other interests, and in some cases the interest remains or even deepens and will continue to do so until death. A few examples (not to boast, but to give examples to those who might be new readers here as the numbers increase regularly):
Those are just my “hobbies” so to speak, my most important topics relate to relationships with women and ultimately marriage, relationships with my children, and loved ones, and relationships with my friends and the things we can achieve if we work together on some things we care about.
I certainly am not short of things that keep my interest despite me being acutely aware of the hellscape we live in and the mutant wastelands we are surrounded by, with roaming radioactive mutants, polluted skies and rabid zombies, along with gay, mentally ill, would-be “overlords” that want to destroy people like me down to the very last DNA strand.
Before I was Catholic I kept myself busy this way and never fell into despair. After becoming Catholic, not only is despair impossible, but I am at times mildly euphoric as I recognise that however hard things may temporarily seem from any given perspective of the day, eventually, due course, whether I see it myself with my own eyes or not, victory, for our side, is absolutely inevitable.
I hope therefore, to have given a few of you reading this some positive concepts to think and act on.
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Ignore Famous People
This falls into the category of things so blatantly obvious that I always think it’s like saying water is wet, however…
Professor Cipolla has taught me that the most obvious things must be relentlessly repeated to the average person for any tiny percentage of them to actually internalise the reality of them, no matter how blatant, factual, and undeniable they are.
Case in point of why you should absolutely ignore completely the “political views” (as if they had any) of any superstar:
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By G | 28 January 2024 | Posted in Social Commentary