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Karl does Bad Reasoning. Again.

I have criticised the boomer Karl Denninger before. Here, and here.

And now I will do it again, but on an entirely different basis, which actually ties in with a MUCH larger picture I have been trying to explain to other people for a long time.

Karl has a long very black pilled post about having children and the future, here.

In fairness to him, I think his overall point is not necessarily that high IQ, K-select people should not have children, as many have accused him of doing. I am quite sure he is merely pointing out why it is unlikely that they will. And insofar as his boomer level of analysis goes, he is “right”. That is, the average NPC will think and “reason” much along the lines Karl indicates. So my critique is not really with his observation of all the negative facts he points out. In the main he is “correct” about his individual examples of reasons why people are less likely to choose to have children.

The desirable people he and I both mean, that is, high IQ, K-select, generally honest and responsible, and reliable people with a good sense of justice, common sense and the ability to do at least decent levels of logic, math, writing and reading comprehension.

But as usual, Karl is missing the big picture. As is typical of the boomer mentality, that thinks primarily in terms of me, me, me, and even when describing global events is guided by their perennial laser-like focus on how anything affect them in the specific, he seems largely incapable of the very concept of synergism.

It is a rare skill generally, but it happens that some of us (mostly GenX) are naturally talented at it, so allow me to point out the errors of his thinking, starting from the exact opposite direction that boomer thinking begins at: that is, the REALLY big pictures frames first. The ones that ignore us, that is you and me specifically completely. Here we go:

1. Nature doesn’t care about you specifically

In the big scheme of things, those who do not reproduce sufficiently die out. Nature is pretty brutal about it and tends to operate on the principles of large numbers. And exceptions to that rule because of different large numbers.

It may just be humanity’s lot that we go the way of mouse utopia aka Universe 25. In which case, we’re all doomed and so are all our children. And if so, why worry about it. Worrying about it would be a total waste of time. Besides which you do NOT know this for certain, so assuming it off the bat is an error. So, as a function of reason and logic, this specific idea must be ignored.

Treating it as valid or true can only lead you to depression and misery in a situation where your irrational belief in a “certainty” you cannot possibly know is a certainty, becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy. This point alone, the Universe 25 possibility, should make it obvious that similar thoughts that lead down similar (if less total) outcomes are also to be ignored.

So for example, the idea that “all white people will soon be extinct” or “high IQ people do not breed together because there is not enough of them” or the more common “marriage and children is a loser’s game because all women are whores and will divorce-rape you” and all the various variants of that kind, are in essence self-fulfilling, loser’s bets on life. The fact that your specific marriage may turn into a hellscape, or your specific life becomes a dead end is not relevant to the entire sub-species you represent.

Yes nature does not care about you specifically, but you specifically can and do affect nature. Make 15 children and chances are most of them survive. If they all too make 15 children from age 20 on, like you did, guess what the landscape of your tribe looks like 100 years from now if you just start out with you and your wife as Adam and Eve? On that basis, starting with you and your wife having had 15 children by the time you are both say 40, if all your children and theirs and so on do the same, meaning that every 40 years they all have a batch of 15 children each, if you lived to be 140, you would have over 17 thousand descendants. 17,275 to be exact. And if the average age of death was say 80, then almost all of them would still be alive, since the first iteration (at year 20) is only 135 people. And that’s only ONE family. Imagine if you have ten such families in the same area. You now have a small nation after one century. Which in the scheme of things is not so much time. And if the genetic serums actually sterilise and wipe out most of humanity, you will not only be a small nation, you will be the majority within it. And it might not be such a small geographical area after all. Now imagine them all of the same religion that takes no crap from depopulationist satanists like Klaus Schwab and Bill Gates and their pedophile friends.

“But people don’t make 15 children each, and how do you feed them all, and send them to college?!?”

Patience grasshopper. People who bought the lies and live in clown world no longer make 15 children. But people did do that for centuries in Catholic countries. And that was before the internet, and Amazon deliveries, and often before indoor plumbing and central heating, and certainly before electricity and tractors and industrial fertilisers and automated harvesting machines… so let that sink in a little and park it in your brain somewhere while we continue to look at reality and possibilities instead of the ghosts boomers put in your head.

“But even if smart white people with good ethics, strong Catholic religious beliefs and enough money/land/whatever start reproducing at that ridiculous and unrealistic rate, they will still be outnumbered by the millions of dumb, brown, evil, people!”

First of all, even if things were reduced to that simplistic level of thinking, realise that the number of white people on the planet always was a minority when compared to the number of non-white people. And probably always will be.

Remember when I said nature doesn’t care about you specifically and operates on the principle of large numbers, with the exception of other large numbers? White people, and the Japanese, are two such examples, just to pick a couple. Despite not being a majority, white people have managed to secure lands and space for themselves very successfully over the millennia. A combination of strong imagination, higher average IQ, and religious beliefs that fostered high-trust and co-operation, served them well when they ejected infiltrating and noxious tribes, ethnicities and behaviours, which they did in the past with ferocious attitudes.

Similarly the Japanese have retained a really quite unique culture on this planet by similarly ruthlessly avoiding to entertain the admixing of their population with the teeming masses.

A perhaps even more shocking example is Catholicism itself, which around 400 AD or thereabouts, when it really was a dark time on pretty much all fronts for humanity in general and Catholics (i.e. the only Christians that ever existed) in particular, St. Benedictine decided to retire to some apparently godforsaken regions and start monasteries. And some 600 years later, the Catholic world was (and remained for a long time) the utter pinnacle of human achievement in everything from the arts, to the courage of men, the safety of lands that were previously the domain of brigands, the ending of women and children as chattel, and generally the betterment of humanity as a whole while being perfectly capable and able to fight back against less civilised barbarians that hounded them.

And keep in mind that Catholic monks do not even reproduce at all! But just by their influence, they firstly created self-sustaining monasteries, then spread the gospel and civilisation all round them, so much so that they even converted the Vikings that used to raid and murder them mercilessly, by giving them lands and asking for their protection. And after a couple of centuries, those same blonde giants were off to the Crusades to defend Christendom. All this was supposedly impossible if you accept Denninger’s base premise which is simply that basic math has all the answers.

Basic math has a lot of the answers, but life is always more interesting that that. As I wrote almost 30 years ago, in original version of The Face on Mars published in 1995, when dealing with math and reality, the theory looks like 1+2=3 or perhaps x+2=3 so we can figure out x easily. In theory.

Better scientists realise that things are a bit more like x+y=3 so both x and y can have a wide range of values. And synergists like me realise life is most accurately described as x+y=z, where both x and y and even z have ranges of probabilities and while computers can in theory predict things very accurately (if the input data is very accurate) they cannot and will not ever be able to account for human nature and reality as a whole. Because the fly in the teleporting machine, the asteroid against the dinosaurs, and the “crazy” St. Benedict, or the iron minded King Leonidas, will throw your entire large number theory set right out the window. And in fact, a human mind that can see these patterns of relationships and figure them out analogously, usually has a better chance of getting it right than any computer prediction of the future.

So. The realisation from point number one is that while nature does not care about you specifically, you specifically can affect nature. Crazy as that sounds. And the main item required for you to have a chance to do so? Unreasonable belief that defies current “popular” thinking, but is based in sound synergistic principles, like large number theory, persistence, and of course, the most successful human belief system ever used by humans, actual Catholicism.

2. Becoming that different large number.

If you want to avoid becoming the leaf in the stream that just ends up being compost, and if your entire tribe, way of life, family, looks like it is just being carried on by world events, guess what, you need to become one of those large numbers that is the exception to the large number concept that you will become extinct. How do you do that? Simple, really, if you think about it.

By being utterly passionate, unreasonable, counter-intuitively absurdly dedicated and persistent, over an equally absurd, unreasonable and “crazy” length of time. St. Benedict didn’t just decide to try his hand at monastery creation and life for a few years. He spent the rest of his life doing it. Relentlessly.

The reason I have achieved so many different things, visited so many places, speak three languages fluently and a couple or three others haltingly, and learnt so many different skills at a high level enough that I could reasonably be considered a professional at several very different endeavours, is because I simply put in more time, more effort, more obsessive thought and action into those things that interested me than most people do, and even than most supposed “professionals” in that field do in many cases.

So, if you want your DNA to make it, you need to go counter to the zeitgeist. Which is healthy in any case since the current “Western” zeitgeist is that you should submit to different cultures and ethnicities than your own. That the family unit is evil, marriage terrible, and making children a very selfish thing unworthy of civilised people. Oh and you should also be gay. Or a cross-dressing, self-mutilating tranny. And make your kids, if you were so unwise to have any, become gay, underage drag queens too.

Really, regardless of your intentions, going 180 degrees away from the current zeitgeist in the West is healthier than not doing so on any scale. But if you want to go the whole hog, then peruse this blog and the various articles I wrote on farming, beating clown world, and so on, and above all realise two things:

  1. Yes it’s hard. Very. Get used to it. It’s just how it is.
  2. Win. Build it. Find the impossible way. Keep getting back up and keep saying “Fuck them”. Eventually everyone dies, so make your life here count.

You overcome the statistics of nature by becoming your own large number anomaly. So git to it, you unreasonable madman.

3. The black pill is a lie.

All fear is a lie, ultimately. And the black pill of doom and gloom is pure fear-based poison. It doesn’t matter what type of fear it is. Fear you will not have a job. Fear you will not have enough money. Fear you will hate your life. Fear you will be a bad parent. Fear your kids will suffer. Fear you can’t do it. Fear you will fail. Fear.

Well, let me reassure you: You will lose your job. Somewhere along the line, if you haven’t yet, you will. You will never have enough money. Never. Elon Musk still doesn’t. Just ask him. Your life will have giant events of major suckage in it. Everyone’s does. You will fuck up multiple aspects of parenting. Everyone does. Your best bet is to keep the damage to a minimum and try and ensure your children understand reality and still love you when they are all grown up. Your kids will suffer. Everyone does. You will fail. Multiple times, at multiple things. You will feel fear in your life. Many times for many different reasons.

There. Got all that? Good. Now get off your ass and go do all those scary things anyway.

No one learnt to walk without falling down. A lot.

No one learnt to read and write without scrawling and misspelling first. A lot.

No one has achieved great things without persistently improving on his or her own screw ups. Failing is not the problem. Quitting is. So, as I explained, become your own large number anomaly. And if God is gracious he will give you enough of a brain to realise the miracle point of when it is not worth bashing your head into the same rock and when, instead, doing so, will eventually form a thick enough skin and skull that you will break the rock and break through to a better place.

Life is hard. Bad shit happens. People die. Evil exists. And on and on. So what? You can whine and bitch and cry and hide in a corner and try and have someone, anyone, everyone, feel sorry for you, or you can get up and become a large number anomaly. Them’s the choices, and no one gets a free ride. So pick one. I picked mine long ago.

4. Being afraid of 10 things means you miss the big opportunity.

If you do go and read the whole long litany of fear compiled by Denninger, you might get depressed. You might think he has valid points and they stack. Let me present just one case or two of his flawed theory.

Then you think about the child getting older.  He or she is rather bright and would perhaps like a college education.  You see the bills pile up on those who are there now, and the growth of that price over the last 20 years.  You see $100,000 or more in debt larded up on someone who studies gender or black history and a “professor” who claims that capitalism is horrible — while pulling down a six-figure salary and forcing your child to pay the next kid over’s tuition in Calculus class because you, not your child, have more money than his parents do.  You think “oh, my kid is a math whiz and will study programming” which sounded great 20+ years ago but then you remember the many H1bs that multiple large firms brought in to replace all of their American citizen programmers, forcing said Americans to train their replacements before being fired in order to get any severance at all!  Thus that $100,000 taken on in debt to go to college, you realize, can be rendered worthless by said corporations even if your kid makes good choices as soon as someone from India will do the work for less money.  This wild escalation in the cost of an education is not by random luck either, which would be a risk everyone has to take — three decades ago there was no Internet and colleges were the only real place you could learn a lot of things.  Today anyone can learn anything from literally anywhere with nothing more than a $50 cellphone, a $200 laptop and $50/month for Internet service so why has the cost of learning and proving it at a college level of competence gone up by five or more times in the last 30 or so years instead of costing almost nothing to simply take a set of proctored tests and prove competence?  Reality is that all of this is due to the deliberate policies and actions of universities, governments and corporations which will screw your child without any possibility of redress when he or she grows up — and there is no evidence that it is slowing down or will be stopped.

So he points out that:

  • College/University is stupidly expensive
  • They don’t even teach anything useful in most cases
  • You can learn most things to a decent level by doing your own research on a $200 laptop

And yet he’s really SOLD on sending kids to college.

Can you see the boomer level thinking? Screw college. Learn how to distinguish and grow the plants that can be used to make tinctures and remedies for various things and sell them only to people who you know. I guarantee you that when the next load of mRNA crap embedded in food, “normal” vaccine shots, or anything else comes along, the people with a still functioning brain will not care too much about your lack of a PhD if the stuff you use on yourself and your loved one works for them too.

Do you really need a degree to be able to put plumbing pipes together, or learn the principles of electrical wiring? Sure, insurance and such is a thing and if you screw things up, or even if you don’t you might be sued into ruin.

Yes, these are real problems, and sometimes have good reasons for being there. I certainly don’t want a pedophile like Oprah’s John of “God” cutting into me or mine as if he were a surgeon. I’d like to know that anyone that needs to actually do a surgery is competent and properly trained; and can in turn be sued into poverty if he screws up because he is not.

But the problem is that over the last 4 years these supposed paragons of ethics have in the main been mass-murdering bastards who lied and lied and lied to your face. Like good old Fauci and his buddies did. So… while I am not really keen on the local witch-doctor’s bone-throwing, the local GP dispensing covid genetic serums is certainly not higher on the totem pole as far as I am concerned, thank you very much. Which means what? It means that firstly I will try to educate myself better. Without the use of google, thanks, because mostly google is also a lie now. And secondly I will go only to people I know, whose work I can personally verify and see for myself by meeting their clients, whatever their field might be.

Denninger hasn’t realised that the entire idea of college is dead. Why would you participate in it other than for a very few and very select reasons, and even then, who knows for how long? Clearly homeschooling and learning your own trade is the way.

Here is another and more “total” point he makes towards the end:

I could go on for hours with this but I think you get the point.  People don’t choose to have fewer or no children because “that’s how it is” as technology improves.  Technological improvement adds choice but society molds opinions and incentives — for good or bad, like it or not.

People make the decision to not have children not because they’re “selfish” but rather on an entirely-rational basis because they look back at their childhood for the baseline and then forward in time and what they see is not improvement but impoverishment, not prosperity but privation, forced compliance and costs shoved upon them while the mandating parties are immune from consequence even when they’re later proved wrong or worse, someone is injured or killed, rampant illegal immigration and destruction of the common person’s standard of living without boundary along with a documented history of forcing the voluntary costs taken by others down their throats along with myriad scams across the board.  When projected forward 20 years they recognize that any child they produce today is highly likely to be screwed blind and has a very low probability of having a good life, say much less a better one than they had.

Indeed if they judge that their childhood sucked they may well expect their kids’ childhoods to suck worse and nobody who actually cares about a child they’re contemplating bringing into the world voluntarily signs them up for that.

The people you want to bring children into the world are those who value children and have reason to believe their children will have at least as a good a life as they grew up with and enjoy now, with hope for even better, never mind a belief that their kids will have a fair shake and rational odds of success if they choose to apply themselves.

All of the policies of the last few decades of both government and industry have demonstrated beyond doubt that none of this is likely to be true and thus only those who don’t give a wet crap about their children’s future, or are so rich they believe they can guarantee it even if everyone else has their standard of living go straight to Hell, choose to reproduce.

About the only truly valid point he makes here is the very first one:

society molds opinions and incentives — for good or bad, like it or not.

That is essentially true. And as I have already pointed out, “society” in general today is very sick. That’s the problem. So what’s the solution? Simple: Firstly, realise, as I have been saying often and repeatedly since age 16, there is no such thing as “society”. It doesn’t exist. What you have is a large number of individuals and the large number probabilities that they produce. In reality you have a large number of in-DUH-viduals, which makes the illusion that such a thing as “society” exists quite realistic, but it doesn’t.

You have essentially zombie hordes. And zombie hordes are easily manipulated and pushed into this or that direction or over this or that cliff or fire-pit. So, as a first step don’t be a zombie. Don’t associate with them. Don’t surround yourself with them.

Secondly, begin the process of isolating yourself from zombies and building up relationships with other human beings. This in itself acts as a already quite a good “wall”, or defence from the zombie hordes, but over time, don’t be shy to build literal walls to keep the zombies out of your areas. And the more humans you have in your community that help to built them, the better.

Thirdly, do not let zombies in at any time. Exclude them and exclude anyone who allows them in the village. This sounds harsh, but is basic survival and also basic game theory. St. Benedict “won” precisely because of this point. He allowed in only Catholic monks that had dedicated themselves not only to Catholicism, but his even stricter rules added to the already rather strict rules for Catholic monks. That unwavering zealotry kept the monasteries pure and therefore effective. A bunch of men who spend all their time, praying, meditating on scripture, and working, will soon produce extremely functional communities. And in fact monasteries became wealthy, for they had a surfeit of food or other things they made, so that they became rich enough they became favourite places for the Vikings to raid. So the Catholic monks co-opted the Vikings too, and now Catholicism also added fearsome, pious warrior types to their ranks, alongside thoughtful, intellectual, pious, and studious ones.

If you refuse to allow any people into your midst that don’t subscribe to your general tribe’s zeitgeist (ideas, religion, world-view), then you cannot be corrupted, And over time, your converting of others increases your number. This is basic game theory and works in the natural world as it does in the abstract one of math. It works because it is again based on the principle of large numbers. A persistent, unexpected, but resilient statistical anomaly, becomes its own statistical normality.

Alongside with not rejecting “society” or if you prefer, forming your own, Denninger is (typical for a boomer) preoccupied with the hypothetical suffering of hypothetical children.

Well, guess what, the very vast majority of human beings, including the ones with really terrible lives, still prefer existing to not existing. We know this because aside from the odd cult, or recently mutilated confused teenager that has been indoctrinated into the child abuse ideology of transgenderism, most human beings don’t commit suicide. So, bad as it might be, life still seems to have the win over non-life. Pretty much for everyone. I know for a fact that every one of my children prefers to be here than not having existed. And it is that way for most people. So suck it up buttercup. Remember how I told you life is hard and everyone suffers? It’s true. But it still beats being dead or non-existent by a couple of light years, never mind country miles.

Finally he tries to justify his own weakness, cowardice and fear by appealing to your own sense of concern for your (hypothetical) children. In a most ridiculous manner if you have followed the discussion up to here; that is, by telling you if you really cared about your children, you wouldn’t have them, because they might suffer.

No Karl, no. They absolutely will suffer. And they will cry and feel pain and heartbreak. And then they will dust themselves off, get up and carry on. And make children of their own and if they need to fight off some evil bastards in the future that I didn’t manage to get to myself before I dropped dead, well, so be it, they will have got as much as they can from me in terms of learning how to do that.

Because guess what, you fragile and egomaniacal boomer, my grandparents went through two world wars, massive economic depression and yes, even lack of food. And they made children too. Otherwise I would not be here. And my children wouldn’t be here. And if I had continued believing the horse-shit your generation still shovels around a bit longer than I did, I might not have had any children at all. Instead now I have five of them. And my own daughter, off her own ideas, with no prompting from me on the matter, because she’s still young for me to discuss such things with her in any detail or seriousness, already has it as a pretty solid idea that she wants to have two children by her mid twenties. And if her babysitting of her younger siblings is anything to go by, she probably will, and be a really good mother at it too. And the smaller ones love each other even as they fight and argue and then play and hug a few minutes later.

Because what you missed Karl, in your ranting and raving at the injustices of the world, is the simple fact that yes, things are bad. And yes they could be better, and yes there is wild evil about, but… on one level or another, it has always been this way. Do you think the Spartans and Athenians about to be wiped out by the Persians had an easier life than you do? Or me?

And they would have been wiped out if it weren’t for a “crazy” guy who took his personal bodyguard to the Hot Gates and held off perhaps up to a million Persians for three or four days.

You Karl, with your fears and your impotent rage, ultimately, are more like a whiny, mostly fake, mostly gay Athenian. Me and mine are more like the Spartans that went with Leonidas. And yes, I include my wife and children in that, because she can keep up with me, which is rare and courageous beyond most women, well-beyond certainly all the normies out there worrying about their pedicure and whether they can land a guy with a six or seven figure salary if they just slut it up enough. And my children are on the same path, which can already be seen by the steps they take and the way they relate to the world and themselves in it.

And am I a lone voice in the wind? No. Not by a long shot.

Every sedevacantist family I know has multiple children, at least 4, and counting. And even we Sedevacantists are not even the only ones.

The current Mrs. USA for 2023 has 7 children and lives on a ranch. This is what she said at the finals for her beauty contest:

“When have you felt the most empowered?”

Mrs America 2023: “I have felt this feeling seven times now as I bring these sacred souls to the earth… after I hold that newborn baby in my arms. The feeling of motherhood…is the most empowering feeling I have ever felt.

So go on Karl, invent all the reasons why no one can have multiple children and then whine and whine and whine about it. Meanwhile, Catholics over two millennia created the best civilised nations on Earth by going precisely against every “point” you made, and under conditions that were almost certainly harder than any most people face today. Especially if you remove the conditions created by our own deficient reasoning, Karl.

Reasoning like yours is the real problem. The rest, human beings have dealt with successfully for millennia. And it won’t be the insipid Bill Gates and Klaus Schwabs of the world that will stop me and mine from being here another now and in the future too, a few millennia from now.

    An Important Point of Neurology

    Came across this and I wanted to point out a rather profound point it shows about human neurology and identity.

    It sounds silly and funny at first, but precisely because it is so obviously absurd, it best highlights exactly how the human brain functions for most humans. As well as why it is so very difficult for people to let go of completely wrong ideas about themselves above all, but also of life in general, beliefs they associate with their own persona and so on.

    The seemingly absurd idea that trying some cheese causes such emotional and psychological angst to this guy makes it clear that he’s obviously mistaken about the importance of cheese in general and almost certainly of cheese specifically as it refers to him. Eat the cheese, don’t eat the cheese, he’ll be fine. Barring some exotic allergy that will kill him the minute he tries cheese that is. HA! See? Made you doubt it too now.

    Ha, ha, silly guy, right? Cheese. So funny.

    Now do Protestantism. It’s at least as retarded, but look at all you Protties reading this now suddenly getting a thin line where your mouth used to be and furrowed brows of disapproval.

    The reason this guy is so hung up on cheese is most likely because all the old traditional things people used to fight and die over have been corrupted to a degree whereby, the average boomer now considers the most trivial and idiotic things as being fundamental aspects of his personality. Like not eating cheese. The alternative is considering almost NOTHING as being fundamental to your personality, which is why there is a heavy uptick in teenagers pretending to be the opposite sex, or taking part in orgies, or believing the Earth is flat, and the Moon is made of cheese.

    Not only are the traditions corrupted and in many cases destroyed, but the very tools of basic logic and basic reasoning have been intentionally kept from these people. They literally do NOT have the mental ability to reason their way into a reasonable position. They are, in effect, magical thinkers. Cargo cultists to Nth degree.

    Leaving aside for a moment the religious or other ideologies, and focussing purely on the neurological element, the reality is that all humans have an idea, a representation of themselves in their own head. Depending on what that idea is composed of, how those beliefs came about and how attached one is to them, changing can be nigh on impossible.

    I was lucky that at an early age I put it into my head that anything any one human being on Earth could do, was possible, so if I applied myself, it was likely I too could do it eventually. I also had persistence and never giving up drilled into me and reinforced by myself and my own choices throughout my life, and still do. Even so, certain patterns and behaviours that I felt were a fundamental part of who I was were very difficult for me to break out too. Part of why I learnt to do deep hypnosis was precisely so I could delve into my own psyche at the deepest level I could. And before I hypnotised anyone else, I put myself into trances that lasted up to a couple or more hours regularly. In this manner I did at first shift, then crack, then removed beliefs about who I was that were not ideal for me. I wrote briefly about this in Reclaiming the Catholic Church, but the point is that we are NOT our beliefs about who we are. We have an infinitely larger potential and amplitude of behaviour and personality colouring.

    Martial arts can change this but it usually takes years. So does any endeavour indulged in almost fanatically for a couple of decades, but aside from controlled LSD trips under clinical settings, the fastest way I know to do this is with Hypnosis. After you have changed a few really core (but erroneous) beliefs about your of identity, and if you have the requisite faculties to do so, you can learn to change other patterns. I have done it several times throughout my life, and the longest and hardest pattern to break was the one I described in RTCC as erroneous loyalty.

    The problem, of course, is not loyalty, which is a virtue, but loyalty to the erroneous concept, idea or person. If you have “being loyal” as one of your core beliefs about yourself, it becomes very difficult to see the errors, evil, or even outright lies and negative values that you don’t share, with your guru, your religion, your family, friends or whatever. It took a long time for me to realise that being objective and letting go of people or thoughts that were ultimately negative was the correct action to take, and was NOT a negative reflection of me or of my being “disloyal”. Since then I have had ample occasion to not only confirm that changing that aspect of myself was the intelligent, correct and good thing to do, but also to confirm that I am indeed, loyal unto death when it is for the right reason. In short, it was a drastic improvement not just for me, but in general, in terms of how I related to the world.

    If you take any of the important things, like your belief in your religion, your beliefs about loyalty, love, kindness, and what part or aspect of these you consider to be core parts of who you are, it will feel absolutely horrifically difficult and wrong to change any of them. And yet, many of these patterns are probably not serving you best.

    No one sane born in a neutral, objective, honest household would become a Muslim or a Jew, since both religion permit sex with underage children and don’t consider sex with toddlers to be a crime.

    Similarly, no one capable of doing basic logic can possibly assume that Protestantism is any kind of thing other than a total perversion of Christianity. And with a little more digging, no one sane could possibly mistake the Novus Ordo Impostors for actual Catholic Clergy.

    No more than anyone would mistake 6’2″ me for an African pigmy.

    But you have no skin in the personality of seeing me as my 6’2″ self, so you see me as what I am, not as a 4′ pigmy.

    You might dislike me, you might be insulted by the undeniable facts about your fake “Christianity” I point out to you, and you will in at least some cases, choose to die rather than admit your error. Not because you are especially brave, but because changing such a core aspect of who you think you are, feels to you, like a fate, even worse than death. Death of the ego feels, to the human brain, very much like impending and undignified death at that. So, truly worse than just mere death. And as a result your brain will fight back with everything it has. Which is quite a lot since the Sub and Unconscious together form at least 90% of your brain by my reckoning.

    The thing is, if you consider the level of lies you have noted in the last 4 years, then begin to realise that your ENTIRE LIFE you have been exposed to lies just as pervasive, just as big, just as pernicious, as the ones you have noted more recently, what do you think the odds are that all your core beliefs about yourself that you hold dear are true, and objective, and good and correct? Yup. Pretty much zero.

    Problem is, if you can’t do at least rudimentary logic, you’re never going to learn how to get out of the erroneous thoughts you think are you.

    Usually people who DO change change only as a result of long and determined effort over a long time, or if and when a big Significant Emotional Event (SEE) happens to them. The Alcoholic kills a kid in his car and never touches alcohol again. The drug addict sees himself in the mirror and something triggers deep in his limbic brain and he stops being an addict. The tough cop that just “get the job done” quits his job, takes time out, realises how all the crap he has seen has hurt him, and takes up landscaping as his next job because it helps him feel good.

    A few people do it consciously by themselves by learning hypnosis and also just working obsessively on themselves, but these are a TINY minority.

    And remember, you are NOT your personality. You are NOT what or who you think about yourself. Those things, in a great many cases, are almost just like persistent clothing in a video game. You can change the colour and shape of your clothes, just like you can change the type of personality you want to have.

      Why you MUST fight the stupid

      Many people do not understand why from time to time, when I feel like it and have time, I take to task some mouth-breathing retard about everything from Protestantism, a known, illogical and obvious degradation of Christianity into secular nonsense, which happens to be followed by millions, including some nominally intelligent people, to the covid “vaccines” which I explained from the start are genetically altering serums that will cause extreme harm to your body, which is a medical reality that has been known for 30 years since the experimentation with mRNA genetic messing started, with testing on animals.

      Plus any number of other topics that I feel are relevant to humanity at large.

      People think I am just ornery and opinionated, which is not entirely wrong, the average stupidity of humans is indeed irritating to me and I can only suffer them in small doses normally, and I do have strong ideas (but few opinions, which I hardly voice) because they are based usually on decades of empirical testing in the real world.

      But I do not fight the idiots because I enjoy it. No, I fight the stupid because it is a sacred duty. If you care about humanity at all (which I find I do, against my own general inclinations) you MUST try to correct their incessant stupidity, passed down from generation to generation, creating an avalanche of imbeciles, which, thanks to those of us that understand engineering, continue being safer and safer and not getting rightfully Darwined out of the gene pool by their own idiocy.

      The village idiots, like rabbits run wild with endless food, and ergonomically ultra-safe step-ladders, are creating our own Universe 25. And their damaging idiocy is now so pervasive that they are starting to really affect the entire globe.

      We don’t have a climate crisis, we have a fucking abominable retard catastrophe.

      Idiots who think the word “gender”, which is used in linguistics, can be re-adapted to be a synonym for sex. And then they try to tell you that human sex is “fluid” or “non-binary”. No. No it is not. You are born male or female, or, if you are unlucky and the result of a natural mishap of chromosomes and body parts, you might be born a hermaphrodite. And some people are born with six fingers or a brain deformation that makes them handicapped in some way. Such is life. Sometimes some guy draws a shitty hand.

      But that does not make men women, or vice-versa. Nor does your particular sexual fetish, unnatural propensity, or deviation make it “ok” to tell people it is normal, or even acceptable in many cases. And if one of those mental deviations is one that makes you want to rape children, then, it is simply salutary and best if you are removed from the gene pool forthwith. And we should absolutely pass laws to make this all legal and normal, as it is, and as it should be.

      Now, when it comes to pedophiles —the freaks who want to rape children— most people, including most normies (but not all, believe me) especially if they are essentially normal and have children, are not too far-removed from sanity, and those that do have some knowledge of the damage that pedophiles cause are generally quite happy for pedos to get the death penalty and even making it all legal and official. That said, few would volunteer to be the executioner. At least, few that are mentally healthy, because being an executioner is difficult work, and most human beings are not armoured mentally against that kind of work. In the past, a lot more healthy men were, but we have lived in decadent comfort in the West for almost a century now, and while in at least some third world countries corporal punishment is still accepted as more or less normal for certain crimes, so is generally a level of brutality that most would prefer to do away with. A modern, civilised society that does apply the death penalty and corporal punishment in a balanced fashion is rare.

      Singapore comes to mind, but some, of course will argue about some of the reasons to issue a death penalty, and very few will consider the issue in the most fair and logical legal manner ever invented by humans, which, like it or not, understand it or not, being aware of it or not, is Roman Law. The principle in Roman is the main framing of an issue, however the details of it are then examined and each case valued on its merits. This at least was the original Roman Law. It has since been somewhat perverted even in Italy, where it originated.

      The reality is that the death penalty is absolutely a deterrent against much vicious crime. And anyone that says it is not, is a liar that usually tries to appeal to fake and false “studies” done by compromised and utterly unscientific organisations. Very much like the anti-gun brigade.

      Now, I am pro-guns, but even I would not be happy with literally ANYONE being able to buy fully automatic weapons in the same fashion one buys bread. HOWEVER, that is because of the mayhem that would happen for the first, oh, say five years or so. And because I have children and a wife and I care about them. For myself, I’d probably be ok to take my chances (as in any case, I kind of did to a certain extent, working in close protection in South Africa for some years). Mostly out of curiosity and to verify that my prediction would be correct. Because if it became a thing that both civilians as well as the military and police could all have access to fully automatic weapons including machine guns, after five years, I suspect the death by guns would approach zero and for the most part be confined to suicides and the occasional nutter, who probably would not get to fire too much before he became Swiss cheese at the hands of a totally armed citizenry.

      To a certain extent I already lived through this kind of change in South Africa. When guns were limited to ownership by whites, there was a regular shooting every week-end over road rage. When gun ownership became open to anyone regardless of skin colour, utter mayhem ensued. And carried on for the next 30 years, because, politically correct to say it or not, it remains a fact, that a people who have NOT developed, invented, and created a certain technology, will invariably misuse it. And the average African is simply not at a civilisational level that permits them to responsibly use or own a firearm. As usual, are there exceptions, sure. But statistics is a thing, and if used correctly, not only it doesn’t lie, it tells all the truths people are uncomfortable with. Besides, if you want to accuse me of “racism”, keep in mind that: a) I don’t give a fuck about your idiotic opinion, b) it is wrong insofar as you use and mean the word “racist” in any case, and c) I’m not the one that made this obvious thing about cultural and technological differences obvious to the world. It was Michael Crichton. Yup. Go ahead and read the original book Jurassic Park.

      What did change though was that the number of road rage shootings between whites pretty much disappeared almost overnight. And the average Afrikaner became suddenly a LOT more polite. This is not just a random idea. It is something I personally experienced. And a very real change. The average white man now was so conscious that if he started shooting for a stupid reason, there were a LOT more people that could suddenly shoot back, and that were likely to as well.

      The point is that in any case, the statistics are in. In the USA, the states with the highest number of concealed carry citizens have lower gun crimes. The exceptions are areas that are predominantly African-American in population. If you are black does that upset you? Do you think I am some racist Neo-Nazi because I can do math? Well, guess what: Fuck you. I don’t care.

      Because if *I* was a big black bald guy, but with *my* brain in my head, instead of yours, I wouldn’t get upset about this at all. Just like I don’t get upset if someone judges Italians on average as being people that generally talk too much, wave their hands a lot, and often speak on topics they are ignorant of as if they knew a lot more than they do (though that Americanism is becoming global in fairness). Or if you said that Venetians are ornery bastards that kinda try to irritate you off the bat, just to see how you react. Or if you said it about me specifically. Hell, I don’t get upset about the Sun rising in the East either, or water being wet. You know why? Because I am not a complete fucking idiot.

      So… if *you* are getting all upset… we-eeel… you might wanna check that IQ loooooooooooong before I ever, ever, ever, will check my “privilege”.

      White, or Olive Nigger that it may be. In fact I’m kinda quite fond of the term Olive Nigger, I find it funny. As far as I know it was coined by a Lilly white American who, quite frankly, is almost translucent as far as skin colour goes. And he also has a higher IQ than me by a few points. Do I care? Am I offended? Look in my eye pilgrim, go on, take a good long look. You see me offended anywhere? That’s right. I could not care less. So why do you, you unspecified nigger of whichever ethnic, or socio-economic, or skin colour persuasion? I’ll tell you why.

      Because you are fucking stupid. Stupid. S T U P I D.

      The point is that like it or not, you can’t let stupid people run the world. Not without absolutely dire consequences. Idiocracy was supposed to be a comedy film, not a tragic documentary, although, to be honest, I found the film too irritating and true to life to watch when it actually came out. I could only stomach about 5 minutes of it by skipping large sections of it. And that was nearly 20 years ago now.

      And you absolutely can’t let evil people run the world.

      Firstly because they are evil, but also because, being evil, they promote and support the stupidity, they increase it and fuel it and feed it. And for that crime alone, among all the others, they should absolutely be hung from the neck until dead, gassed, shot in a firing squad, or even just like rabid dogs Ceausescu style. And they know it. Which is why they promote the stupidity. Smart, intelligent, honest, and good men of strong character, in any great numbers, would storm the places of power where these evil pedophile and child killers live and work, and would dispense rough street justice to them immediately. Which sometimes in the world takes place before appropriate and salutary laws and good people put in place to see them well-enforced are secured in place. As, for example, in Singapore.

      My main objection to Singaporean laws is certainly not the death penalty, but perhaps, rather, the level at which it is applied. But that is absolutely NOT a criticism of Singapore or its laws or even the judiciary. It is a criticism of humanity. Allow me to explain.

      I am vehemently against drugs of any sort. I never even touched the stuff at all for the entirety of my life until my late thirties and early forties, and even then, the sum total of my experimentation was perhaps a handful of times smoking cannabis, and precisely once, snorting some cocaine. I did it for the sole reason that people I care about and valued had done some of these things; and more. And despite being intelligent and capable, they seem to use this crap regularly. A young guy I used to work with, who was a decent person, worked well, and was smart, apparently snorted coke almost every weekend. People I grew up with, my close friends, hid the fact they occasionally smoked Cannabis because they feared how I would react to them. I simply told them they were morons, but it didn’t concern me, other than make me realise they were more moronic than I thought to begin with.

      After that singular experience with cocaine, it became absolutely confirmed to me that the only people who snort cocaine are either idiots or such weak and/or damaged people that they cannot reason their way out of their situations and lives, or at least change them in any really positive way. Are they evil? Usually not, although the drug use can eventually corrode them to the point they become it. Are they weak? Yes. Are they dumb? Not always necessarily, in a classical sense, but certainly in regard to making stupid life choices, yes. No one needs any mind-altering substance in a civilised and logical world. And although we are living far from either thing, it is still not a good idea to drug yourself up in order to temporarily escape it (only to be faced with it again and much more so a little while later).

      In short, I am not a fan of drugs.

      That said, I think that giving someone the death penalty for having half a kilo of Cannabis is probably a bit extreme. HOWEVER, it is a FACT that if you do NOT do that, then it will start with Cannabis and before you know it you will have meth-heads running around burglarising homes and hurting people to feed their habit. While if you DO have the death penalty for Cannabis, guess what, aside the odd idiot here and there, everyone stops using it to alter their brain chemistry and the entirety of society is better off.

      No. I am not interested in your idea that smoking that shit does no harm. I saw it with my dad’s workers for decades at a time, because it was in a country where it is not really criminalised at all; and it absolutely rots your brains. So keep such retarded opinions to yourself.

      So my problem with the Singaporean laws is not that they are too harsh. It is that humans are so utterly stupid that they are necessary. In a civilised world, the cannabis smoker would (unrealistically) be smart enough to not do that shit where I can smell it, or where it affects me, or anyone else, or his driving, or his cognitive abilities…

      You see why it’s necessary to have the death penalty, right? Because honestly, if a drug addled fucker runs over one of my kids, I don’t care that he was a “responsible” user. He clearly wasn’t.

      And therein lies the problem.

      SO.

      Is it clear now why it is absolutely your DUTY, if you are at all a good guy, to call out the stupid. To limit their activity and range and effect they have on others. The village idiots need to be put back in the closets and kept there. And their families made responsible for the harm they cause. Their doors marked with the red letter I for AN IDIOT LIVES HERE.

      You must show them up for the harm and damage and stupidity they cause to the world at large and to yours and mine.

      It’s not that I enjoy beating atomised ghosts of dead horses. It is that it is a sacred duty. So, if you possess at least the minimum IQ required to understand the point, get to it. Learn the truth, learn logic, learn basic mathematics, and then join me in a crusade against Human Stupidity. We can’t really win the fight, but like Leonidas and his 300, perhaps we will be remembered in the millennia that follow us.

        Surviving WW3 Long Term

        On the basis of the recent poll I got this request:

        Something Else – How to Survive Long Term in a WWIII Scenario for a married man with young children (Shelter, Food & Water, Surviving extreme Heat/Cold, Defense, How to keep your wife and children in good spirits, Not drawing attention to yourself, etc.)

        It’s a pretty comprehensive question and an entire book could be written about each of the topics, so my reply will necessarily be brief and somewhat generic, but hopefully still specific enough to make a difference.

        Good Spirits

        Also known as Morale, may be the most important factor of all. It certainly tends to be in most conflicts throughout human history.

        You should be aware of this, especially for your wife and children more than other factors. Consider: If you move to rural buttfuck-of-nowhere intersection and Hillbilly country, you might feel wholly relaxed that no one will waste a nuke or military to come steal your 3 goats and 15 chickens. However, your wife might miss things like actual shops where you buy food instead of have to skin and gut whatever you shot for dinner. She might even like to get a coffee at a cafe once in a while, frivolous degenerate that she is (joke! That’s a JOKE!). The rugged life of an off grid pepper that has his own bomb-shelter may be the stuff of manly dreams and boyhood joy, but generally is not seen in the same light by the gentler sex. So discuss these things and make sure everyone is clear on the difficulty and/or changes of lifestyle. Are there women out there that would love this life-style, sure. But they are a minority. And almost everyone likes hot water and indoor plumbing, and not freezing in winter. So, read my 4 part series on taking on clown world and winning (use the search me button on the right). If you do, you will see that ideally you need to pick your place on the base of the geography you want to have ideally. Although, for most people that is already set, it is not too late to make the jump now (it is likely to be more expensive if you want to do it quickly, as always). The factors affecting morale are endless, and even more so for women, so it is difficult to give sound advice to all. One lady I spoke to was having trouble being an hour or so away from her family in what is still a pretty civilised area of a very urban country. She had not been living further from her parents than a few minutes and the change was a shock. The rural area she was in was not remote by any means but felt like it to her and feeling isolated with small children made her days feel like an interminable Groundhog Day. So you need to consider these things and take them into account.

        Unlike men, most women will not be happy with an ideally fortified home in an ideal rural area, with a secure bomb shelter under the house, gun ports and plenty of weapons and stock-piles of ammo, food and clean water. Unless you have a wife like the one of the main guns-ho guy in the Tremor Films, what would seem to be ideal to a man is rarely ideal to a woman. She wants mani-pedi and spa locations nearby, a good hairdressers, nice friends to gossip and laugh with about the goings on in the town and their respective husbands and girlfriend’s love affairs and so on. Trivial nonsense that doesn’t matter in a hot war zone? You bet.

        On the up-side, it’s mostly because women like these things that we don’t live in a permanent hot war zone, for the most part. Because we men tend to want to please them. And do they appreciate our efforts to give them a poisonous Starbucks on every corner in lieu of bashing irritating neighbours over the head with a nicely shaped stick? Not even a Thank you, kind Sir, I tell you. It’s just the way they are. No point getting upset about it.

        So, the HOW you ensure good morale with your wife, is a giant minefield that no one on the internet can possibly navigate fully for you. I can only tell you to not ignore it, prepare for it, prepare her for it and consider that the things that are so significant to you that they may never even have entered your head all your life, might be extremely important for her. After all… she doesn’t even thing about Rome daily!

        Women are primarily solipsistic, so if they experience some discomfort, the Universe is out of whack and God should stop and make it right (through you mostly) and if He (you) don’t, then, you must be the problem. By and large. Your 14 hour days stacking wood for winter, pondering how to build a biological septic tank and your own solar panels, really are not as interesting to her as you would expect of any normal person.

        You need to have a very deep connection based on honesty with your wife in order to navigate this well. And keep in mind off-grid farming is brutally hard. And even harder with small children to look after. So, building your community, having one that is active and fun and good is very helpful. Having little friends for your children is also very helpful.

        That all said, I sincerely hope that your wife is good natured enough to be the kind of person that can read this entry and laugh, in unadmitted generic agreement with my caricatures. And more importantly, that she is smart and logical and objective enough, to realise that if and when the SHTF, she better be ready to take up a shovel and dig the dirt with you, and at minimum reload the rifles while you hold off the zombies, and preferably shoot some of them herself. How you find/foster/cultivate/generate that delicate balance of manicured nails, pretty, sexy dresses and chocahinos with friends with the realities of having your entrenched fall-back positions for the zombie apocalypse is a puzzle you need to figure out on your own. But figuring it out is VERY important, so don’t ignore it.

        Children can generally be kept in good spirits by simply spending time playing with them and teaching them things in good order. Which of course takes up a lot of time, but our children (the little ones) are learning from us all the time and actually enjoy being helpful. The two older ones may need ye old dad’s foot in the backside to motivate them, because they were raised outside of functional family structures, unfortunately, but they are definitely improving and will get there soon enough, and when they do the sense of achievement for them and us both is also an awesome feeling to have. So make the entire concept of having good morale a game you enjoy instead of a chore you dread.

        Not Drawing Attention to Yourself

        Better than that is being thought of well by your neighbours and community. Help the people near you and be friendly and genuinely a good guy. Of course, if and when the SHTF they will also all come looking to you for help, so you need to balance that. For me that is relatively easy. I am a misanthrope by nature and don’t like people much as a rule, but I am polite and friendly to everyone, until they give me reason not to be, then there is no mistaking who I am and what kind of level of “force” I can bring to bear if required. Generally, if people realise you’re a nice guy but have no hesitation in turning heads of bad guys into pink clouds at the drop of a hat, you get the right balance of helpful (and good) friends, and respectful strangers. The down side is that if and when they DO get organised to come for you, they will actually be a force that is organised and to be reckoned with. But that is my way, because it comes naturally to me. You need to find your own natural way and work your strengths and better your weaknesses. I am not particularly worried about organised roaming gangs of zombies, because if and when it comes to that, there probably isn’t a worse guy to go after in a radius that probably reaches the nearest army base. Even so, I have made good friends where I live and will help my neighbours if I can or when needed and they do the same in return.

        Shelter, Heat and Cold

        Obviously, your primary home needs to be suitable for wherever you have chosen (or are forced) to live. I tried to pick a place that is not too extreme one way or the other, but in reality, it gets snow in winter (which will probably only increase over time) and is a bit too hot in summer with a lot of attendant bugs in all seasons (flies and mosquitoes in summer and stink bugs in winter). If the weather changes drastically here, a greenhouse will become a requirement (and I plan to have one anyway at some point) and livestock might require better shelter, but your primary shelter and provisions for heating in cold climate is obviously a priority that needs to be faced and that you need to be ready to address in a grid down situation. If not, I suggest you move! It is a lot easier to survive hot places than cold ones. I have plenty of wood to last me literally years and I installed a large wood stove that can heat the whole house and also be used for cooking (not as quickly as the gas stove, but in an emergency, the house remains liable and we can still cook food even without electricity or gas).

        The next big item if electrical independence. the easiest way to have some of this is to have a generator and some fuel set aside. It is however a temporary and not a long-term solution. You eventually want to get at least enough solar panels to run your fridge and a couple of lights and at least one or two power tools at a time.

        My gasifier project was meant to do this by providing wood to fuel a gasifier that could power a generator, meaning I would not have to rely on petrol. That project, however, has so far been a failure. Which is not to say it is impossible, only that the effort required to make it work in the first place is a lot more than I thought, and more importantly, the effort required to keep it functional if you get it working might be even an order of magnitude higher. That said, I still want to provide value to the people that supported the project, so I am looking at alternatives ways to at least give them something that might be of use or interest for them.

        Conclusions

        Overall, the main issues are to create a home that is self-sufficient in terms of the basics: Water, heating, food, electricity, and sewage processing.

        If you have achieved that, 90% of your problems are taken care of. After that it’s just being able to maintain and even improve on things as you go and preparing with better shelter, better community engagement, better weapons, better food stockpiling and even alternatives to using cash and especially digital money. The economy WILL collapse at some point, it’s not an if, but a when, and when it does desperation will drive people to accept whatever draconian slavery will be imposed on them. The whole point is for you to be able to survive completely apart from that, and in turn be able to inspire and help others near you do the same.

        If you saw the recent (2020) series based on the Brave New World of Aldus Huxley (and with he same name) you want to be one of those “troglodytes” living outside of the “utopic” city. And you certainly don’t want to end up caught by them and influenced and ultimately caged by them in any way. Ultimately, you want to be able to roam free and either KEEP them all locked up in their cities, or have their cities crumble to dust with the architects of them buried under them.

          Concentrated Advice for Men (and some Women)

          The sheer number of young men that I at first simply thought were rudderless, spineless, weaklings, is huge.

          And perhaps many of them are. But I was also surprised by the enormous improvement and sensible life choices many of them make with only a little guidance. This post then, is like the postcard version of all you need to know to be a successful man.

          And please understand that by “successful” I do not mean having great wealth or being famous or anything along those lines. Those things are incidental to the action and reality of being simply a man. In the order given below then, with mere bullet-points and little to no explanation of each of the points, except the last, here it is:

          • First decide what kind of man you want to be. What attributes, what values, what skills, what is important to the man you want to be and what is not. You can take inspiration from anyone or anything, from comic book characters, historical figures, or people you know, but decide who you would like to be. And try not to limit yourself. Obviously if you are 5’ 4” you aren’t going to become 6’ 4”, but aside physical axioms, you can decide how honest, how proficient at a chosen skill and so on.
          • Second: Work at it. From now until the day you die. If you feel at any point you have already achieved all you can in terms of who you want to be, you’re either lazy or aiming too low.
          • Chose your own path. Yes you will make mistakes, but everyone does, and your own are far more tolerable than having to live with the consequences that arise from making someone else’s mistakes.
          • Listen to everyone and ignore them all. Sounds contradicting but is really paradoxical. EVERYONE will give you free advice on EVERY aspect of your life. And most of it is bullshit. So, go ahead and ask or listen to it, but realise that in the end only YOU make the decisions in your life for everything in it, and that happens as a result of those —YOUR— decisions. No one else’s.
          • Respect hierarchies that deserve respect. Ignore fake one.
          • When it comes to women, remember that infinite topics are reduced to pithy sayings only as a result of large number statistics and generalities. And while that is true, generalities are still facts, just not every time; only most of the time. Most PUA stuff is advice given by people who think human beings are reducible to a set of mathematical variables. And who prey on the wallets of men. All you really need to know and do is simply to be a man, that is, your best self as per the advice above, and stick to your guns. Not unreasonably so, not eternally and unchangingly. Just most of the time in most of the ways.

          On that last point especially, a recent conversation I had with my wife was quite endearing. I forget how we got onto the topic, I seem to recall it may have been to do with mentioning our son and life advice for the future and so on. In any case, my comment was simply along the lines that all a man needs to do is stick to his own road and way. Because women have no idea what they really want, and it changes with the weather, or the alignment of the planets and so on. So if you were to try and change your life in accordance with that, you will achieve the opposite kind of result you want and be miserable throughout it, and, so would the woman you are trying to please. That last being the key point almost all men today (and pretty much all women) get wrong, or don’t understand. She looked at me for a second or two, then smiled and kind of shyly carried on looking at me in that way she has. I always knew she was the right one. Long before she did.

          And she told me a story about one of her relatives who as a young man really liked this girl, and when he told her and her other relatives about it, every one of the women present advised him to stay away from the girl, as they deemed she was trouble and up to no good and would get him in trouble too. She went on to say how this young man ignored all of them and carried on his pursuit of this girl. And now, years later they are not just married with children, but very happily so. And she said how glad she was he didn’t listen to any of their advice.

          We talked about this too and two films come to mind, one is the one with Mel Gibson called What Women Want, which is where Mel gets the power to read the minds of women and in a scene, in a meeting, he reads the mind of what one of the women in the meeting is thinking, so he says exactly what she is thinking so as to get her to agree to whatever the issue was, and she immediately disagrees with him. I thought that was a brilliant aspect of the female mind well-explained.

          Another, film, which we recently watched for the second time actually, as we had forgotten about it, is called About Time and is possibly one of the best films I have ever seen. So if you don’t want a spoiler, skip the next paragraph in Italic below this one.

          In it, the main character wants to get with this girl and he has the power to travel back in his own timeline. He finally gets the nerve to ask the girl about being with him on the last day of her holidays with his family, and she says, it’s too late now, he should have made his move earlier. So he goes back in time and makes his move earlier and she says they should wait and he should ask her on the last day of her holidays.

          Once again, a perfect exposition of how the female mind actually works. Because it has very little to do with linear logic or keeping your word, or being honest and direct. A woman may want to do all of these things, but… and there is always a but… her mood might change, her hormones may be out of balance, the Moon may be full that night and make her euphoric or morose. It’s not even that they mean to lie or be deceptive or inconsistent. A feminine woman will genuinely want to be a good girl, but will still screw this up regularly. And as long as those screw ups are within a certain realm of “passable” a man will forgive them, because from time to time, his life choices for them both will go via forest animal tracks instead of good, safe, highways, and she will forgive him those too.

          The worst women, of course, will calculatingly use the fact they are a woman to put into action the very worst, nefarious schemes they planned from the start, then act the poor hormonal victim, but then, narcissists of either sex are a complete nightmare, and we are discussing here non-demonic types of human beings.

          The point is that a man should first and foremost be himself. And as the ancient oracle to Delphi stated (a place I visited, by the way) the first rule for a man, is to know himself.

          Know who you are. Know who you want to be. Know what you have done and are doing to get there, and what you will keep on doing until you do get there, and then improve on it, to the end of your days.

          Now, a man that is himself, that knows who he is and why, and that has chosen to be as he is, consciously —not merely being the result of the hazards and parenting and trauma that invariably shapes all our lives— well, such a man will not veer his path for the mere whimsy of some woman. No matter how pretty she is, or how good in bed, or what promises she makes him. A man needs to, first and foremost, alter his path in the ocean he sails only as a result of his own choices and his own decisions.

          Which is not to say he does not consider anyone else or ignores all advice or runs roughshod over the wishes and dreams and desires of his woman or other loved ones. It simply means exactly what I wrote, no more and no less. If you do veer the path for your woman in some way, let it be because YOU decided to do so. YOU calculated the risks and the losses and the gains. YOU decided this move was the best move, and YOU and only YOU will be to blame if it is the wrong move. Because to try and hold your woman to account for YOUR decisions is almost entirely nonsensical, weak, and fruitless.

          Of course, YOU will be held responsible by her, for every stupid, weak, bad, decision SHE made that turned out badly. And your reminding her that if she believes the feminine imperative that women have their own agency in reality (the only actual fact of feminist theory, arguable though it is) then her mistakes are hers and hers alone, will not endear her to you (I know, it’s a shocking surprise!). Nor will explaining that if she does reject that feminine imperative, well, then, she should just go along with whatever her husband says and if and when some of his decisions turn out badly, she should be nurturingly understanding and remember all the good decisions he made for her and how the overall total (hopefully!) balances out far more in the positive than the negative.

          The point is that ultimately, for all human beings, making your own choices and taking the responsibility that goes with it is your just lot in life. Few human beings live this way though, of either sex. Men generally are statistically a lot better at it than women though. And those men that live this way may have good or bad lives, but for the most part, they at least are at peace with themselves.

          If you find a woman that lives this way, and she is happy with you, then marry her. It won’t mean she will not do female things in that infuriatingly chaotic female way. She will. Because she’s a woman. But if she also happens to be the type that in time or at least when faced with the cold facts, realises her own faults and admits them (at least to you and you alone) then, know you have with you an uncommon human being, and as far as women go, practically a unicorn.

          And of course, it also helps if you are learned enough in mythology, to know how to guide unicorns to pleasant meadows where they might find fresh water to drink. And then they might choose to do so. While you patiently wait along the shore.

          The morons reading this that will assume the usual (me big, bad, patriarchal, misogynist, chauvinist pig and woman, poor victims always and regardless, with all agency but no responsibility whatsoever) are, as I have always said, irrelevant human wreckage, so, as always, don’t just ignore them, shun them from your life, for they are a pestilence and bring nothing good to your life.

          Those that are merely severely brainwashed by the modern zeitgeist (and who isn’t on some level) simply need to see, observe, learn and notice in their own lives, that women are happier when able to rely on their man to guide them both through life, with them helping and offering their perspective, but being comfortable letting him “drive” so to speak.

          Of course, this is true when the man is actually a man, and not some semblance of a caricature, either being overly “dominant” or rather, arrogant, in an endeavour to cover up his lack of ability/knowledge/status/power/big dick energy/whatever.

          And remember that I always make a distinction between an arrogant man (someone who says and/or thinks he can, when he actually can’t) and what in Italian is known as superbo which is a man that says he can, and he can. In short, someone who is not humble, (or at least apparently not humble at first impact or exterior appearance) but not a fake either.

          The worst type of “man” is the faker who takes on the airs of a competent and self-conscious man (as in conscious of himself, not as in shy), while being an actual empty shell inside. Such men might fool a woman initially, but bring only misery. While an actually competent man, may or may not land the woman of his dreams, but pretty much any woman that is into him, would be generally happy with him if he is into her too.

          But all these more detailed explanation and imaging of overall concept still boil down to basically just one thing:

          Be who you choose to be, be consistent with it, and make your way in it. The rest, more or less, will follow and happen as it does and perhaps needs to. And the right woman for you will, indeed, not only follow in your path, she will help beautify it.

          Life on this Earth can be very hard, and likely to get harder. Picking the right man or woman to make children with and go through it together is one of the things that makes it absolutely worthwhile. So choose carefully… but first…

          Know yourself.

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